But first, let’s just get it out of the way…

We all do it.  There’s no denying it.  Many of us do masturbate.

In this post, I won’t tell you about whether or not you should masturbate (that’s for another post), but rather, the best way to masturbate if you wish to avoid getting delayed ejaculation from death grip.

So what is death grip?

If you frequently masturbate too rough, too dry, and/or too fast, you will have difficulty being able to cum with your partner – both during the sex and the foreplay.

Your dick will basically be too used to having rough, dry, and fast sex to get off.  When it comes time to be with your partner, they probably won’t be able to give your dick the stimulation that you usually give it with your hand.

Your dick needs to receive stimulation similar to vaginal sex – stimulation that is: soft, light, lubricated, and gentle.

I’ve had problems with this for many years, but never truly knew what the problem was.

When I first started doing lots of dating back in late 2013, I realized that whenever I was with a girl, I could never get myself to cum.

Even if I could cum, it was a rare occurrence.

I could be fucking her for hours and while it’d feel really great (I mean, absolutely amazing), I just never got to the point where I could cum.  I often had to enjoy the sex, but then, if I wanted to cum, I had to use my own hand and she could kiss me and touch me and all that to increase the pleasure that way.

Believe me, this made many girls very frustrated (and me too).

So often, I heard them say things like…

• “Why can’t you cum?  Are you saving yourself for another girl?  Are you cheating?”
• “Am I not attractive enough to you?”
• “I must not be very good at this.  I’m sorry that I’m so horrible”

After I was done laughing at their silly comments, I started to think about the real reason why.

I mean, these girls were very attractive and I was having a great time with them.  I just never could figure out why.

It was so strange to me.  I was a little scared that I was broken in some way.

First, I thought it was my surgery I had once before.  Back in early 2013, I had a hernia repair done.  I asked my doctor, over and over again before the surgery to make sure the surgery wasn’t going to have any long-term effects down there.  And it wasn’t.  It was going to be fine.  That kind of surgery never affects your ability to cum (unless they seriously fuck up… which they didn’t).

Then, I thought it must be me being nervous with the girl.  Maybe with new girls I just couldn’t relax and get myself to cum.  But that couldn’t have been it.  Even after multiple dates in quiet, sexy atmospheres, surely, I should be fine then.  But that didn’t help either (although it helped a little bit).

Then, I thought it must be my diet and exercise regime.  Thus, I started lifting and eating right.  That helped too… but it wasn’t the cure.

And then finally, I figured it must’ve been my masturbating habits.

I admit.  I feel embarrassed to talk about this (even about writing this article), but I sadly realized that the masturbating must be the central cause of it all.

So I did tons of research on it all.

But, I’m a healthy male. My body’s at it’s best right now. How could masturbating effect my ability to cum with a girl?

After doing the research, I figured I should try the whole, “No Fap” thing.

(Y’know… where you don’t masturbate ever.)

And it worked well… kind of.

Strangely enough, if I don’t masturbate, then it’s really easy for me to cum with a girl.  Sometimes, too easy.

But, if I masturbate too much, then I never cum with a girl.

What was the problem?

After doing more research, I found out it was how I masturbated that was the issue.  Not truly the masturbating itself.

I learned about death grip and how to overcome it.

Once I overcame the issue, I was able to both last a long time in bed with my partner AND still cum as much as I wanted.

Perfecto!

That’s all I can ask for.

And so, after doing some research, here is how you too can overcome it as well.

How to overcome masturbation death grip syndrome…

• First Week
  • No masturbating at all
  • That’s right.  Zero.  Just resist the urge completely.
  • This is the reset period

• Second Week
  • Only one session of easy and slow masturbation (when you’re relaxed and fully ready to do it)
  • Use lubrication
  • Consider using a Fleshlight

• Third Week
  • May masturbate at most twice (using lube, going slow, etc…)

• Fourth week
  • Up to you.

After the one week of no masturbating, I then masturbated twice in the second week and three times in the third week using lubrication and no fleshlight.  It’s a bit different than the plan above, but for me, it worked perfectly fine and it cured my death grip.  I’m still amazed at how I was able to quickly cure it after years of having that problem.

I hope this helps you guys.  Let me know your results or questions in the comments down below.

Thank you.

– Luigi